re: Is Loneliness A Disease?

Yeah, loneliness can be a huge problem. Our current society, especially for younger folks, seems to actively limit in-person social engagement. Hookup culture has resulted in women essentially being haram’d, and huge percentages of men having zero relationship partners, and almost no hope of ever getting one. The women doing the hookups aren’t getting what they need, and even the guys doing all of the hooking up are getting cheap satisfaction, but it’s fleeting and leaves them hollow.

Basically, no one is getting what they need. Humans are pack animals and are designed to survive in pairs. I am fortunate that I have so many good friends through my hobbies. Even then, I still spend a lot of time alone and struggle with loneliness. Some of this is that I simply don’t like being by myself or being out in public in a crowd alone.

I feel like certain activities and situations are discouraged when you’re by yourself, like they’re not FOR you: going to the movies, sitting down to eat in a restaurant outside of the bar or a quick lunch spot, bowling, live sports, etc. So much of life is designed for people to do together, yet so much of our time is being regimented to keep us a part. I feel so isolated when I go out in public without one of my friends or a date, almost like I’m not welcome or not supposed to be there.

90% of the reason I still date women is just to have someone around so I feel like I can do the things I want to do in public that my friends either don’t want to do with me or don’t have time for. The other 10% is all the actual relationshippy stuff, but 90% is just that I miss having my wife as a plus one, and I hate doing everything alone in a crowd.