re: Husband changed the locks after I had affair. . .which was his fault, obviously.

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Was my immediate exile from the marriage really the right thing for my husband to do? Is horribly wounded pride a good enough reason to throw away years of mutual support and, yes, happiness?

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Yes, it was.

And it wasn't wounded pride, you narcissistic cocksleeve. It was loss of trust, and lack of remorse at the deed. . .but at the consequences.

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The truth is, my affair was a symptom of an unravelling marriage rather than its cause and yet I still maintain it could have been saved.

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The wrongdoer doesn't get to decide that. . .that is the HEIGHT of entitlement.

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The affair was honestly a desperate and stupid attempt at personal salvation, not marital punishment.

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See, Honey? I did it FOR me, not AGAINST you!!!! Stop letting your pride get in the way of letting me get away with it.

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In fact, it didn't take long for him to move on. The decree absolute came through and it seemed just a few months later he was married again.

Indeed, I admit to uncharitably wondering whether this second relationship was already in the works before we split and to pondering the possibility that he too had been unfaithful. I never got the chance to ask him.

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I am also going to accuse him of cheating, because he was married again in what SEEMED like months. . .so, likely a year or so.