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re: DIY Divorce?
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:02 pm to Highway_Man
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:02 pm to Highway_Man
Similar deal with my first wife. We worked it out amicably and I paid $350 for the quick & easy divorce lawyer who drew everything up. The only thing I gave up was a relatively small amount of my 401k via a QDRO.
I will say this: she didn't know that in a full divorce trial, I likely would've been liable for half of her credit card debt. And she had racked up so much credit card debt, over $30k. All of it on stupid shite. Up until the moment she signed the papers, I was praying she wouldn't contact a lawyer for a 2nd opinion with regards to our plan.
I will say this: she didn't know that in a full divorce trial, I likely would've been liable for half of her credit card debt. And she had racked up so much credit card debt, over $30k. All of it on stupid shite. Up until the moment she signed the papers, I was praying she wouldn't contact a lawyer for a 2nd opinion with regards to our plan.
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Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:03 pm to Highway_Man
If things start to go south - try to stay away from the emotion. Treat it like a business deal where you know the other person is trying to screw you over. If they’re being nice, it’s only because they want something. Don’t get in screaming matches on the phone - just calmly say you’re going to hang up and do it. (It gives you some control and feels good.). I hope yours stays amicable, but just be prepared if it does not. Good luck!
ETA: if you’re so inclined you can pick up a family law book for your state. I found it was good so I could get an idea of my rights without having to go to my lawyer for every little thing she tried to do - it gave me an idea of when she was lying when she would claim that she “talked to her lawyer and….”
ETA: if you’re so inclined you can pick up a family law book for your state. I found it was good so I could get an idea of my rights without having to go to my lawyer for every little thing she tried to do - it gave me an idea of when she was lying when she would claim that she “talked to her lawyer and….”
This post was edited on 10/16/24 at 4:10 pm
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:04 pm to Highway_Man
Sorry for your troubles but I don’t understand why people start these threads.
She’s going to get pissed at something, take you to court, and the first piece introduced into evidence for her case will be this thread.
She’s going to get pissed at something, take you to court, and the first piece introduced into evidence for her case will be this thread.
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:04 pm to Highway_Man
Jody is wearing that snatch out. No woman has ever left a marriage without having another man (or woman) ready.
This post was edited on 10/16/24 at 4:06 pm
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:05 pm to Highway_Man
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She doesn't want the house (nor equity but planning to agree to give her a portion from the current value if we ever sell).
She's frickin someone new
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:06 pm to Highway_Man
quote:And these relationships will only last about 3 years, just enough time to destroy your home. Then she will tire of them, or they of her and they will move on to a new friend to influence. Then, there your ex will be, all alone with just broke arse divorcees courting her. The last laugh will be yours.
She already has. That's part of the issue. It's like a virus.
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:08 pm to greenbean
quote:lol - you know like two women? Including your mom.
No woman has ever left a marriage without having another man (or woman) ready.
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:12 pm to Highway_Man
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Let me guess - she just turned 40 within the past year.
Miss Cleo?
I've just seen way too many women hit 40, reevaluate their lives, and get a divorce thinking they'll climb the financial ladder.
She'll have the "time of her life" for the next two years, then regret her choice and beg you to take her back. DON'T.
It almost always ends with a drug/alcohol addiction and they turn into the old queen of the barstool that you can find in any dive bar in Louisiana.
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:21 pm to Highway_Man
Worked with a guy that did his himself. Gotta pay to file the paperwork though
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:21 pm to pwejr88
quote:Cept for the fact that we’re using code names.
She’s going to get pissed at something, take you to court, and the first piece introduced into evidence for her case will be this thread.
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:25 pm to White Bear
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Cept for the fact that we’re using code names
I wish that were the case.
Then the other 4,547 threads would still be alive that were taken down. Love finds a way…
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:26 pm to TheEnglishman
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But I promise you, something will h happen that will cause an argument or someone will feel regretful for giving up to much in the divorce and as soon as that happens things will go bad. They wont sign the thing and you will have to get a lawyer anyway.
Yep, tried to do it the civil way with a mediator. Spent 10 LONG hours at the mediator's office only for her to have a temper tantrum, stomp out the office, and haul arse in her car. $4000 wasted on that mediation since I had to pay both my lawyer and the half of the mediating attorney. $400 an hour for 10 hours.
Civil doesn't work - by the time you wake up from the emotion fog and realize she's f'ing you over, it's too late.
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FWIW, adultery is cause for an immediate divorce in Louisiana, meaning you wouldn't have to wait the year and the at-fault spouse loses any claim to alimony, etc.
Have to be able to prove adultery, but it can be done circumstantially.
Mine cheated, I had all the phone records, texts, photos, etc.
It's nearly impossible to prove in this state.
Just ride out the one year thing. Get back to doing the things you loved before you met her - fishing, golf, etc.
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What the hell is emotionally cheating?
Facebook affair. Mine would stay up until 4 in the morning drinking vodka cranberry's, sending nudes, and messaging dudes while I was sleeping.
Posted on 10/16/24 at 4:30 pm to Shexter
quote:it helps if she’ll admit the cheating, especially if she wants out so bad
It's nearly impossible to prove in this state.
And yes, I’ve known two women who admitted to cheating so they could get the divorce over with
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