re: Marriage/sex guidance

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Yes and 3

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You’ve been dating 4 years and your three year old child was planned?

Doesn’t add up man. How old are y’all?

You’re not married yet. Best advice anyone can give you, especially those of us happily married, is that marriage solves nothing.

In fact, marriage makes relationships more stressful and magnifies small problems. Without a strong foundation to build on, a marriage will crumble.

If you dated well and vetted your partner correctly, then I contend there is not a better thing on this planet than a happy and successful marriage. But it’s not easy. Marriage takes work and it takes love and without both of those in place beforehand, you’re fighting a brutal uphill battle.

If you’re unhappy in the bedroom and unable to talk to your wife and unable to compromise, delay your wedding.

On a more real and OT approved advice note :

If you’re truly making your wife happy in the bedroom she’ll be open to whatever you want and if you’re satisfying her completely, she’ll be open to things you like.

If she never initiates, doesn’t seem to enjoy it, and doesn’t seem to enjoy you, you’re doing something wrong.

And the old bullshite narrative of “‘marriage and kids kills your sex life” is only true for couples who were miserable before any of that.