re: Granting dying wishes vs going against a parents wishes.

The early childhood baptism in the Catholic Church is more of the parents and godparents making a vow to raise the child in the Catholic Church and with Catholic values. Confirmation is when the child or young adult is making these same vows for themselves and is taking on the responsibility of living and practicing the faith independently from anyone else. So if you are not going to raise your kids with Catholic values and take them to church every week etc. etc., I would not baptize them. Just my two cents.