re: Dating Advice: Are my dating views radical?

Ok

Where to start --- LOL... so much.

Dude -- Rule #1 Do not talk about your relationship or the status of it.

Just fricking go meet this woman and get to know her. WAAYYYY down the line if you guys even like each other, then you can actually have a serious conversation about the future. At this point, the only thing you should be talking about is things you like. I like rock music. I love camping. I like going to the movies. I am an avid chess player.....

Two - pay for the first date -- if you are a poor then just have a poor first date, but regardless -- you should pay for everything. Like it or not, a woman wants security -- both physical and financial. You want your first impression to be that you are either poor or a fricking cheapskate?

No offence, but I think it is pretty obvious why you are having trouble.