re: Just need to unload some words (heavy post)

I know that guy ou are hurting for your friend's family. In a time like this, our natural tendency is to relive every situation to try to find out what went wrong or how they could have done things different. But what I have found is that you cannot go to the shoulda's, coulda's or woulda's. They will eat you alive. Attempting to drive while looking in the rearview mirror will only cause another wreck. Focus on the good memories, give yourself time to grieve and focus the children on the life that is still yet to be lived.