re: Doubt this has happened to a TDer before.

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That is a sad story and it sucks, but she gave the child up for adoption. Two other people took on the role of parent to the child and they have every right to parent the child and make decisions regarding that relationship, even when the child reaches adulthood. She should honor the parents wishes to leave it alone.

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I agree with this. They are the parents to that child in every sense except dna, so although meeting him might have brought some sort of closure to your wife if the parents didn’t want to go down that route you should respect their wishes and not try and circumvent that.

Finding out he died like that has to be a heavy blow to your wife though and I wish y’all the best.