re: How do I get my S.O. to get on the same page w/ me regarding dog discipline?

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You also don't have to get her to hit him.

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Definitely true. Once you've established that a behavior is undesirable you can resort to firmness and showing that you are boss without hitting. For example, my golden will still occasionally dig in the trash. I usually bring him to ground zero and he immediately submits and knows he's done wrong. I'll push his nose in it, talk to him sternly and hold him down. The dog knows at this point he did wrong and I didn't hit him at all.

The biggest problem I had with disciplining the golden was that he was 1 year old when I met my fiancé. He was awful with the come command and would readily defy her whenever he pleased. She never gave any positive or negative reinforcement to him coming back to her or not listening to her. A couple scary moments of him almost getting run over in the road drove me to do lots and lots of training with him. Rewarding him for good behavior (treats) combined with punishing him for bad (shock collar) and the dog is excellent and disciplined now.

The biggest piece of advice I can give you is consistency over a long period of time. I trained my golden for about 2 months with the shock collar and walking around unleashed. He learned what he was supposed to do and wasn't supposed to do because it was repeated so many times.

He still knows that he can get away with more with her and he knows he can beg her for food too, but I don't think that will ever change. But he's still not a complete a-hole like when I first met him. Y'all have to get on the same page.