re: Is your S/O fat? Would you ever tell him/her to get in better shape?

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Every time I get serious about training she gets really frustrated with me. I even try and work around her schedule and then she guilt trips me about never having time to work out herself

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My SO is very similar. I basically told her we aren't married (yet) and that shes free to go find a slob if she wants one. However, working out is as routine to me as taking a piss. It's not and probably won't ever change. It has nothing to do with her.

To pecker:

What happens when y'all are both 50+ and your hormones are failing you. You aren't going to be young and attractive forever.

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My SO has body image issues.

She'll never get fat, but I think she is the type that wants me to be heavy so she can feel better about herself.

Every time I get serious about training she gets really frustrated with me. I even try and work around her schedule and then she guilt trips me about never having time to work out herself.

FML

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This is common

A lot of women who get fat will shame their man and try to get him fat too. For example he will go the gym and they will bitch about it, "Why are you going to the gym, I like you the way you are, you could stand to gain a few bounds, I like dad bods, etc." Then he gets fat. Women do this to feel better about themselves being fat, and because they know if she is fat and he is in shape, he will leave her for a woman who isn't fat. It's just her way of keeping her around

The best card a man has is the ability to walk away. If she won't get in shape, you need to let her know you can and will walk. The fear of losing you is what will motivate her. If she knows you will stay no matter what, what is her motive to stay in shape?