re: Question about popping the question

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Good thought I hadn't thought about the adjustment engagement period and she wants at least a year long engagement.. I've told her about all of my apprehensions, I just think the rhetoric will change once the title becomes Mr. And Mrs.

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When you get engaged they tell all their friends and that period goes out the window. They're over the engagement almost instantly and in instant wedding planning mode which is chaos and horse shite. You'll wish you were dead for that year. There is no engagement period. You're kidding yourself. Take the blue pill and move in to a one bedroom with a good life.

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I just think the rhetoric will change once the title becomes Mr. And Mrs.

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5 years together and you don't trust her.

Considering cutting bait at this point is probably where you want to invest your thoughts instead of marriage based on the limited info you've given us IMO.