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That regardless of what she does or accomplishes in her life, her life will now be broken down into before the rape and after the rape. That no matter how well she handles this and heals, she will never have that same privacy, security, and dignity she once had. All because of one person and one night. So, while the rape may be the catastrophic catalyst, it may by no means be the worst thing she ever experiences.

But isn't that precisely the reason that rape is so awful for a woman? I mean the actual act can be peanuts compared to the ramifications that a woman may be forced to overcome. As a man I'm not going to tell you how to feel about it by any stretch of the imagination, but I'd argue that the struggles post-rape are some of the worst things about the event.

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Posted by NoHoTiger

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Posted on 6/9/16 at 4:33 pm to slackster

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But isn't that precisely the reason that rape is so awful for a woman? I mean the actual act can be peanuts compared to the ramifications that a woman may be forced to overcome.

Yes. But I deem them to be separate acts. It's why so many rape victims, and victims of other violent crimes, see their lives in before and after the event. So often people see the rape as a dicrete and finite event. When, in actuality, it is not. It is the catalyst event for other events that will span her life. Which is why it's so infuriating to hear things like he only gets 6 months in jail because we don't want to ruin his life over ONE mistake or transgression.

We are probably saying the same thing. But whereas you see the rape and all it's ramifications as one ongoing event, I see it as a catalyst that can have both immediate and ongoing effects. While it may not impact every event in the woman's life, it will pop up from time to time and make her life that much more difficult. It is not something one just gets over or moves on from.

BTW: I appreciate your civil discussion. Sometimes that doesn't happen