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To be honest, I don't want my napkin folded for me by the waiter when I get up to use the restroom, I don't want to be treated as if I am royalty,

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This may be a big part of why you are uncomfortable in such places, When I was young, I felt awkward when other people were "serving" me, whether it be a waiter, shoeshine guy, or housekeeper. I felt like, dude, I'm just a peon like you, so you don't have to kiss my arse and call me sir.

I got over it eventually, with one exception: bathroom attendant. I feel sorry for the poor bastards and embarrassed to have them handing me a towel.