Financially- A little over a year. When we separated, like an idiot, I agreed to let her keep EVERYTHING we had acquired during our time together. Except the xbox, because goddamnit, she wasn't taking that. Which meant I was actually homeless for about a month. I left with literally my clothes, the xbox, $200 and my car.

I think I agreed to it because I didn't want any of her shite in my life, reminding me of the years I wasted only to have her rip my heart out.

Fortunately, she was fricking rich, so she didn't want alimony, and we didn't have any children together.

Emotionally-I still have my tough days, 5 years later, but then I remember the living hell it was being married to a borderline personality and I get over it.

I've been with many women since, can't bring myself to feel much of anything for them though. Even with the current gf, I wouldn't be devastated if we called it quits tomorrow, as long as got to hit that one more time.

Probably a defense mechanism, wonder if that ever goes away.

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Posted by damnedoldtigah

Middle of Louisiana

Member since Jan 2014

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Posted on 5/19/16 at 5:55 pm to Vols&Shaft83

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I've been with many women since, can't bring myself to feel much of anything for them though. Even with the current gf, I wouldn't be devastated if we called it quits tomorrow, as long as got to hit that one more time. Probably a defense mechanism, wonder if that ever goes away.

That's actually a good question. I have experienced the same thing myself and still do seven years later. I think part of it is a defense mechanism. I also think that we hit what we thing is the lowest point in our lives, and as we're coming back up, no one will ever hurt us like that first one did.

I like to go out from time to time, have a good time, get laid, etc. I also have a many evening where I am content to have dinner with the dog and enjoy a movie with her sleeping at my side on the couch. The dog has been the most faithful creature of anything that happened in the divorce. They are authentic and accept you unconditionally. They are more than ready to play when you are feeling great, and they are there for you in your low times as well. If anything, I think my dog senses when I am having a down day and tries to cheer me up by brining me a tennis ball to throw or a piece of rope to play tug. Thank God for dogs.