re: Divorced members of the OT

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you just have to get accustomed to a new normal.

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Yes, your life is going to undergo redefinition. Funny thing I learned: Just keep your head down, keep trying to do the right things, use the experience to find (even small) ways to make yourself a better person, and you will come out with an interesting sense of peace. I was in my 50's when the wife left. I never thought that I would be single. Now I am in my 60's. I occasionally date, but not much. As for the ex, that bitch will eventually hit the wall, and I really won't care.

As to the issue of retirement, mine later wanted to go after it.

Two problems:

First, she initially indicated in the presence of my lawyer and myself that she wasn't interested in my retirement. Consequently, it wasn't in the property settlement. In order to lay hands on it now, she would have to get a LA attorney to sue LASERS. Good fricking luck with that one.

Second, I offer to proportionally divide the retirement as long as she agreed to take on half of the debts made in the community (including a student loan that I can afford, but she can't). She backed off real quick.