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And there's a 99.9% chance that she's lying. Women are generally psycho and I wouldn't put it past any woman, no matter how long or well I'd known her to come up with an insane lie like that. I once had a gf tell me that her friend was shot and murdered so that I'd let her spend the night instead of making her go home because I had to be at work at 5am.

I don't want to get involved. If he wants advice from me, I'm going to advise him to come to the OT and read the advice for himself right here.

If he insists on advice from me, I'll tell him to advise his wife to buy some of those cleat overshoes that are designed for walking on ice.

Cheating happens pretty often and I guess it's always that way. How each couple resolves it is up to them. Isn't "get some counseling" the standard advice for people with troubles? That's going to be my advice: buy some cleat shoes for her and both of you get counseling. Period. Let the only "outsider" involved be a professional counselor.

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Posted by Bard

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Posted on 1/5/16 at 11:23 am to Champagne

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I'm going to advise him to come to the OT and read the advice for himself right here.

Show him this post...

This isn't like one of those old Peanut Butter Cup commercials where she was walking down a street eating peanut butter and accidentally bumped into some guy who was eating chocolate and ... Oooops... his dick fell into her snatch.

She willfully and purposely cheated on you for an entire weekend then lied to you about it with an embarrassingly implausible lie. She met this guy, made a conscious and purposeful decision to ride him (what was most likely multiple times) over an entire weekend. She then made another decision to fabricate some ridiculous farce because she apparently believes you are too stupid or too desperate to call her out on it.

A good, healthy relationship is built on mutual trust and respect and these are fostered through open, honest and caring communication. I don't know the particulars on the communication aspect your relationship, but apparently she has little respect for you and she has proven you can't trust her.

For me, this relationship would be over. The soap opera simplicity of the lie itself is almost as disrespectful as the actual act she spent all weekend doing with some other guy. For whatever reason she hasn't grown up and unless you married her just to raise her, the only real decision is to send her packing.

You can try counselling, but in the back of her mind there will still be that immature piece of her that will lose what little respect she still has for you, that piece that tells her you would be willing to look the other way if she can just come up with a more plausible excuse next time.

It's better to be lonely and alone than lonely in a relationship because when it's just you, you control it.

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Posted by Slingin Pickle

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Member since Jun 2008

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Posted on 1/5/16 at 12:43 pm to Champagne

sounds like a "get out of marriage free card"

Lucky guy

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