re: I need some honest relationship advice

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All joking aside, I know that you do not want to hear this and will probably not listen... You are too young to be worried over something like this, and you need to just end the relationship. I know how it seems man, I too once thought at 19 that my then girlfriend was going to be the one. There's like a 95% chance that is not going to be the case. You should be out enjoying college right now without having to worry. She doesn't know what she wants, and is behaving selfishly. She wants all of the benefits of being single, but still wants to have you there if something goes wrong in her conquest. Never settle for being somebody's fall back plan. You hanging around is only going to lead to you getting your emotions stomped on, trust me there's not really many positives, if any, that can come out of your current situation.

The fact that y'all are long distance is actually a blessing, because it will be easier to finally the cut the chord. I know it will be extremely difficult for you, but I promise it is likely the best decision. If somehow down the line things work out, then that's awesome but don't plan on that happening. Best of luck.

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This is sage advice. The only thing I will add is that if you do not end it now you will end up regretting wasting some of your college years on this relationship.

I also had a girlfriend out of high school when I went off to college (wow, so many years ago). Broke up my sophomore year and kinda screwed me up for a couple of months. Looking back it was the best thing that happened. I had so much fun once I was untethered from a relationship. I actually now resent having had a girlfriend at all while in college. Best advice I can give a young man is to break up with your girlfriend the day you graduate high school. You need to head off to college solo in order to get the full experience.