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Holy shite dude. You've only been dating this girl exclusively for 2 weeks. In a woman's world tall aren't even in a relationship yet. How long did you know her before yall started dating? Seriously if you are acting this wrapped up and insecure 2 weeks into the relationship you have some soul searching to do.

I don't know - we're doing the families thing for Tgiving. And you're being too hard on me - I came here looking for opinions and advice. Yes, I am being beta in this once instance, but at the root of it I'm looking for the best way to handle. I think you're overreacting here saying that shite is doomed and all. I don't like the situation and I want to attack it and fix it on a go-forward.

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Posted by Breesus

House of the Rising Sun

Member since Jan 2010

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Posted on 11/24/14 at 7:36 am to SirWinston

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you're being too hard on me

Dude I'm not even being that hard on you. If you can't handle me pushing you a little on a message board, I don't know what to tell you.

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I'm looking for the best way to handle.

Find a hobby or an activity you can excel at and practice it. Learn to be the best at something. You don't have to be the best in the world, but be the best of anyone you know at something. And work at it. Build you confidence up at that and then slowly but yourself up in other areas of your life. When you're out at a bar and you girl talk to other people are you just sitting there silently next to her brooding?

Go talk to other people yourself. Sharpen your social skills. I make a point to talk to atleast 2 strangers in every room I walk into. It's a great way to develop speaking skills and learn how to read people.

And I'll reiterate my last point, if you feel jealous or that a girl is more attracted to someone else it is always better to just yourself up then tear him down. Buy her random flowers and cards and gifts. Women eat that shite up and it doesnt take must effort but it pays dividends in the future. Surprise her with dinner plans. Find out what she likes and do it. If she can't appreciate you for that and you can't get her to acknowledge how much you care then she isn't worth it. And you dump her. But you take what you've learned and you are that much more prepares for the next relationship. Good luck.