re: Cant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle

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My GF worships him because they're been friends for ages and he's a professor in a field that she's passionate about (that's how they met).

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Don't make the guy an issue and this will probably keep you out of trouble IMO. Think about it, if they've been friends for ages and she wanted to frick him, they'd have done it already. Whatever chemistry they have probably isn't romantic or sexual or else she'd be with him and not you.

Now if you make the guy an issue and try to wedge yourself between them with some kind of "it's him or me" type shite, you might end up screwing yourself while she's screwing him. But that's easy enough to avoid, especially when you already know this is silly on your part to begin with. Just don't let the hate get to you.

If you just find him annoying to deal with outside of anything with your girlfriend, then just don't spend a lot of time with him. I've never had a girlfriend who made me try to be friends with her friends; most girls will obviously want you to get along with their friends, but if there's one friend in her circle that you just can't stand then I'm sure she won't let that be an issue.

Although with that said...

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I only bring this up because it just adds to my frustration - like "I'm better than this dude - it's not like he's Tom Brady or Ben Affleck. WTF are my relatively strong social skills and situational schmoozing rendered to ineffective to others around the table when I'm in this rotten crowd?".

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Quotes like this make you sound jealous and insecure. It's not even about this guy in particular being in your head, it's about the fact that you're letting a guy get in your head, period. If you're so much better, why do you have to reinforce that to yourself by posting on the OT at 4:20 in the morning? It sounds to me like you're not convinced you're better. You're also focusing on the wrong shite - making money is good, making more money is better, but money doesn't make you a more charismatic person, so trying to win a battle of charisma with your paycheck isn't gonna do you shite. Just stop worrying about this dude, if he were a threat to take your girl then your girl would be with him already instead of you.