re: Living/passed grandparents - different treatment (Alzheimer involved) ...TL:DR

That's a difficult situation you're dealing with.

My Grandparents went throught the same thing 25 years ago. My mother and uncle put them in a nursing home, I was furious at the time. I tried to block it out and never visited them. They did not last that long there, but I did get to see my grandfather in the hospital and said my goodbyes before he passed.

I regret not visiting them to this day. Don't be me.

Glad tidings.