re: 1st Anniversary/Valentines screw up

[ (Posted on 2/15/14 at 7:53 am to JAXTiger16) Be assertive and lead the discussion...not defensive and following her lead! Stay very calm...don't raise voice! Tell her you love her, you tried, she is acting inappropriately, next year will be better, you can't wait to see her and that you will discuss it no further...kill it today! When she receives the present Monday, she will feel like shite for reacting immaturely and you won't have to say anything, except "you're welcome" if she thanks you! If she tries to start up again, either bitching or apologizing, tell her "as I said, this discussion is over." Handling the matter firmly and clearly will show her you are strong...not weak! It will become a positive, because it will begin generating respect from her, toward you as the family leader! When you get home, don't let it be discussed...take her to a reserved dinner at a restaurant with fresh food (not processed/frozen), give her one rose, make love, and as you then cuddle and she cries, cry a little yourself or fake a couple tears! [/quote]

Fantastic answer, except for the crying part, don't do that.

Basically, be the lighthouse, not the lost ship