re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

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My daughter was just diagnosed with BPD. She is extremely manipulative, dishonest, and destructive. She has threatened to commit suicide 4 times in the past year and been hospitalized each time. She made up a story about her mother stranguling/abusing her and reported it to the miltary, which nearly ended her mother's career via court martial.

She seems to lack any empathy whatsoever. She threatened to murder her 1 year old baby sister and set a cardboard box on fire in my house.

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Sounds like she also has a conduct disorder going on too.

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Has anyone had any experience dealing with something like this? We are seemingly running out of options. I have tried to communicate with her from every angle and tried multiple ways of discipling her, but nothing works. I have prayed over her, medicated her, but it only gets worse and worse.

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Medications do not do much for personality disorders because the person being medicated does not see the problem. Call your PCP and get her referred to a pediatric psychiatry program ASAP. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is the only thing that has been shown to help and that is if the therapist is able to convince the patient there is a problem and how to recognize the symptoms. Also I know you do not want to think about it because she is your daughter and only 12 years old but if she has started having periods get her on contraception. It is not uncommon for teens with BPD to get pregnant as an alternative to threatening suicide as an attention seeking behavior.

ETA: Prayers sent for you and her mother. It is going to be difficult. Best of luck.