re: How to raise sons to be confident and successful today in a big city?

What does big or little city have to do with it. Probably get in more trouble in small town

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I want my sons to be products of their generation

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No you don’t… you want them to be ADHD social media addicts with no balls?

focus on education, education and education first….family, sports, teamwork, church, human socialization without electronics

spend time with them, tell them you love them. And are proud of them every day Play ball with them, teach them things with tools, cooking, etc. Play board games. Go on as many trips as you can with them. Hunting/fishing/camping/hiking. Expose them to as much different things as you can

Be their best friend but be their dad too. Fair but stern with rules. Teach them to not be afraid, don’t fear mistakes, but learn from them. Setbacks are opportunities to learn and become better. I’m not a big punisher… repitition of values and talking with them seem to work better for me

Do not give them a phone… I’m waiting til high school or driving, not sure yet. Do not give them their own social media account. Do not let them play with your phone. Block YouTube except for YouTube kids.

Don’t drink alcohol in front of them.

Teach them freaking manners… please, thank you, yes maam/sir. Hold doors for people. skin color is just a color and that the inside of people is what matters. i teach them to stand up for their friends and don’t take shite from punks, this does not mean fighting but be sure to stand up for yourself and your values. If that means telling the teacher then do it, shitty kids need to be called out for their behavior to change.

That’s all I got for now, just some rambling thoughts. I’m trying not to raise spoiled bratty kids like a lot the private school loser kids. My kids have character, are well respected, and not judgmental. They are empathetic, kind, respectful.