re: Divorce Board Spin-Off: If you have been married, why did you get married?

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don't believe in the one true soul mate concept of romance. I do believe in myself and in my husband's ability to follow through on commitment towards our ideals of family and trust in our ability to attain the skills required along the way.

If you forgive my crass analogy, I can walk into a dog shelter and as long I have an understanding of what I need (ie, non aggressive, etc.) I am confident I could walk out of there with about any dog and I will love it.

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i said something along the same lines to my wife once. didn't go over well.

to your analogy, i don't think i could walk out with ANY dog and love it, but i'd only be entertaining dogs i was interested in bringing home.

as a christian, i didn't date a whole ton (your pool is much smaller if you have those standards) and my wife is the only woman i've ever slept with. i dated 5 girls from HS to getting married in college at 21.

3/5, i'm very confident i could still be married to today, happily. the journey would be different, but our morals and goals lined up.

the two i didn't marry (a very submissive quiet woman who was very pretty and friendly, but boring... and a very assertive career oriented woman who was a bit too forward for me) would have never worked out.

actually out of curiosity, i just looked up the more career oriented one and she has her PHD and is a consultant that posts daily on linkedin about her travels. Genuinely a great person but I couldn't be married to her. She got married but has no kids.