re: Getting financially screwed in divorce

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It took me until I was in my mid 20s to understand my step dad wasn't the problem, it was actually my mom (both Navy,) and I expect similar to happen with my kids at this point.

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It’s unfortunate women are like that. My mom was like that too and we really haven’t had a relationship in awhile. It’s sad but seems common.

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The most disturbing factor is that my ex doesn't think it matters that my kids don't care about their father. It's mind bending to think about, as my perception is that kids are number one. And then I found out, they didn't matter as much as getting a check, which I didn't expect. So OP, you may be getting financially screwed, but as long as you can regularly see kids that live five miles away, you have hope. I don't.

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Sounds like my parents divorce. I got to see my dad every other weekend all living in the same town. I was around 12 when they divorced and I bolted for the military after graduation. Unfortunately missed a lot of time I wish I could have spent with him during those earlier years.

My older kids are your kids age and I spend a lot of time with them. Take them to school and pick them up. The older they get they understand me more. I think that has a lot to do with kids and dads. My son was a huge mamas boy but last few years he’s starting to get closer to me and it irks my wife a bit.

I hope things change where you get to see them more. They see everything going on.