re: Starting Over After Divorce

I separated last March and finalized over the summer. I had no kids with her, she had two kids from previous relationship.
I honestly spent the last year doing all the shite I wanted to do. I travel internationally a good bit. I bought a turbo charged bmw convertible. I bought a sail boat.
Really a lot of just doing stuff for me instead of for a family. It sounds selfish but it's been amazing.

If I want to frick off in Cartagena for a few days I just go. If I want to go to the beach I jump on a plane to Isla Mujeres.
I set my own work schedule so taking days off here and there isn't hard.

I'm about to take my boat to the Mississippi barrier islands to go camping.

So my advice? Live for yourself for a while after the divorce.
Let life happen and don't stress the loss of the relationship.

My wife ended up with a guy who works at a body shop with 3 divorces under his belt and I laugh at how he is taken them on no trips and have no car while I sold the car I bought for my step daughter to her neighbor.

No more yearly Disney trips taking all my vacation money.
No more running 4 people to LA and NYC.

Everyone who told me not to raise someone else's kids was right. Just took me ten years to learn.