re: What happened to the cheating wife thread?

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They are talking about what it is from the woman’s perspective, not the man’s.

It’s 100% correct. Wives who cheat rarely do it solely to get laid. It almost always starts with an emotional connection with another man, or a lack of emotional connection with their husband causes them to jump into bed with someone they believe will emotionally connect with them.

If your wife cheats and you are willing to try to save the marriage, this is important to know. You can’t assume her motivations are the same as yours. If you focus on the sex (understandable because that’s what makes you feel most betrayed), you might underestimate the more dangerous emotional component that lead her to another man in the first place.

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usually it starts with the sense of security being broken. That doesnt mean what guys think as in the women doesnt feel safe...it can mean that but also may mean she doesnt feel like he follows through with things , he may push all decision making on to her, may make fun of her behind her back, etc etc

usally this happens because communication sucks, usually from both parties.

then they start feeling emotionally unsafe, emotionally unheard etc etc then that leads to accepting of flirts being shown towards her...then onto physical touch etc etc

the physical act of sex, is the culmination of a multitude of failures of the spouse along the way.

atleast 75% of the time. Not always the case, but every time i have seen someone cheat that wasnt just a whore...this was the issue.