re: Ever had a naturally violent kid?

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He's in kindergarten now and his teacher has told me to remind him that the playground is not a place to wrestle, and to keep his hands to himself in the classroom. I had to fuss at him at basketball a few weeks ago because he was just sitting on the bench slapping his two really good friends for no reason, thinking it was hilarious. And last week he was whacking his best friend on the bench with his water bottle.

He's not trying to be mean or violent, but as a parent it does get extremely frustrating because I have explained endless times how to behave and treat others.

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This is my kid to a T. We tried punishing for bad behavior (taking away toys) and rewards for good behavior. Punishing didn't seem to help at all to change his behavior. Sure, he'd get upset when losing toys, but he'd still do the same bad behaviors. Rewarding good behavior seemed to have some effect, but then it got to a point, but had diminishing returns over time.