re: Have you ever experienced "arrival fallacy"?

This is often referred to the Hedonic treadmill, coined in 1971.

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People are conditioned from birth in this country to believe that externals are the goal

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This is correct, it is a westernized thought, so prevalent that we can’t see it, like fish in water.

This is a byproduct of the enlightenment. Before then people everywhere described themselves firstly as the son of, brother of… and felt shame when not upholding family and community values. We traded that for radical individualism, and consumerism, and hustle culture. We feel guilt, not shame, for not achieving social goals.

Some attribute influence to the puritans, and their views on work and salvation.