re: A friend of mine is getting disowned by some family members for divorcing wife that

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How is for better or worse an excuse for this woman to just sit around and get fat?

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The Disney version of romance would be nice but pretty much no one other than your mother will love you unconditionally.

As a guy lose your job and see how long it takes. There are implied expectations hard wired into the DNA of most relationships.

There are a lot of miserable men in sexless marriages. The idea that sex is an obligation in exchange for fidelity and commitment might not be romantic but at least occasional sex isn't really all that much of a labor ask compared to the labor needed for everything else important in the relationship. But it makes an enormous difference in how men view the quality of their marriage.