re: Genuine OT help on a new engagee

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If you want all your elderly relatives there you are gonna have to ditch the destination wedding idea. Many of them may not 1) have the budget to travel and 2) physically can’t handle traveling so far due to medical conditions, etc.

You either want lots of family there or you want the destination wedding. Unless y’all are rolling in cash you won’t be having both…especially if y’all want Hawaii.

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This and unless you know every person you want to attend can do so financially and physically, it's downright selfish to expect them to attend.

If she wants a destination wedding, she won't have all of her friends and family there. That's a fact. Destination weddings are far more stressful to plan, so the stress is going to be there much more than if she has the wedding more locally.

These are the things you should be discussing. Make a list of pros and cons of a destination wedding. Start there.