re: Genuine OT help on a new engagee

quote:

---

She's a people pleaser, she wants the destination wedding, which could care less but I'm all in with her and what she wants. But she wants to make sure it can accommodate all of our family members across the states; her brides mades and some family are in Alaska. I want it to be her day and our union. That's the only guarantee. We've been in love from day 1, I mean that literally. I want her happiness, that's it. I know this means the world to her and I told her I can help in any way possible but she's overwhelmed and she just wants the perfect wedding without the headaches

---

Look here brother -- I was an elopement type and we had a destination wedding as a happy medium. You ain't going to be able to please everybody.

Focus on things in this order:

1. Destination that makes YOU and HER happy and is not over the top. I.E. Somewhere people can fly within US/Canada/Mexico and then drive (<3 hours). If it's somewhere people can fly to direct, thats definitly better.

Destination also is great for another reason -- it weeds out the herd. The people you care about being there will be there.

2. Having things at the wedding that make you happy but also considering things that your guest will enjoy. IE, don't be like my dickhead friend having black tie in the woods in 90 degree weather...

3. Family considerations -- honestly, you can't let memaw drive you wedding decisions. My wife's grandparents wouldn't have really been fit to travel anywhere more than 15 min from their home anyway. We did our destination wedding and then we did a church thing back in her area with a party with her big arse extended family.