re: I never really grasp term gaslighting (NSFW)

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you can just be neurotic and/or insecure and in an argument attribute emotions and actions to someone that they don't actually feel. Nobody likes having someone else repetitively tell them how they feel, especially when it's not true. It's a relationship killer because one person is so insecure and the other gets so frustrated.

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the good news is, once you know it's being done to you, you can usually sidestep.

but yes, being told about the time i felt a certain way in a certain argument about a topic that i barely remember from a decade ago and having that used as ammunition against me in a current argument about another thing - that is what gaslighting is by my definition. that's the shite that makes you legit question your own memory and sanity.