re: How do people cope with separation or divorce?

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You might find your soon to be ex wife falls in love with all over again. It happened to my uncle and they have been remarried for 30 years.

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This happens quite more than we think it does. It makes sense to me, especially if there are years and children attached to it.

One spouse may not be willing, and I get it. The thought could be from them "Why do I want to go back to that," or "You want it to go back to the way it is" which is actually the complete opposite of what most people who do self-reflection, healing, and growing actually want. They want something new, better, and different and are able to contribute towards that with the new and improved person they have become.

The former spouse's perception of their ex may never change. It doesn't mean that they're right. It just means they are basing today and tomorrow on their experiences with you from the past. That's why it is important to keep working on yourself. Maybe they will come around and see things differently over time. Maybe they won't. But either way, you're growing, and healing. And that is never a bad thing.