re: Have any of you been distanced from your Dad and he passed away during that time?

My father provided financially very well for the family but was horribly emotionally abusive. He also never even attempted to bond with us as children. He's told me horrible things, like he never wanted my brother and never loved my mother. Both my mother and brother haven't spoken to him in over 20 years. I originally planned to do the same, but I occasionally speak with him, out of pity, because he'd have nobody if I didn't.

He has no remorse and feels he did nothing wrong. I think he's basically incapable of knowing / acting better. The truth is I almost feel guilty for continuing to talk to him, like it's betraying my mother and brother / not holding him accountable like they do.

It's very awkward and sad.