re: Have any of you been distanced from your Dad and he passed away during that time?

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For all the annoying, shite posting I do, I really do feel bad for kids who aren’t close to their fathers.

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and mothers, as well.

I'm going through a very difficult time with one of my parents, my mom. It's too personal and too much to share online. It involves doctors, elder abuse cases, attorneys, and dementia.

I wish things were different. Most people who have bits and pieces of information do not understand, nor do they approve based upon the limited information that they know.

I try not to get too consumed about what others think at this point, as I know the processes that are taking place are necessary, and have spoken with my counselor and a priest multiple times. Both have assured me that we are doing the right thing, even though it doesn't always feel 'right.'

My point is, forgiveness --- because this is what the first two pages are about --- or the lack thereof, is what is needed in many of our relationships. Forgiveness isn't for your father or mother --- it's for you. Once you have truly learned to forgive, it is one of the greatest feelings in the world --- to have that burden of hate, anger, and disrespect lifted from your shoulders and soul.