re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.

Man, that's tough and I'm so sorry for you and your kids. My mom was in the same position when she was 35 and her strength is what kept us (all boys) from being frickups. One thing I will say is as hard as it is don't rush to find them a new mom. You had the right person for you and while they can't be replaced there is someone else out there that will be good for you and your kids. You might never find the urge to be with someone else in the same way but you will want/need help. Be patient and lean on family and friends. They/we're here for you.