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re: Dear diary, tired of living (update pg 14)
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:38 am to Will Cover
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:38 am to Will Cover
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No amount of anxiety will change your future, no amount of regret will change your past. Peace is found in acceptance. Stay focused on today, and take it hour by hour, minute by minute.
Good advice here. Try to make today a good day. Get out the house and do something with one of those 8 people that love you. It’s about to 9 once that lil girl is born. Start building her a gift or go buy her a gift. Something tangible to prepare to give her.
Today will likely suck, tomorrow will possibly suck, but the future won’t always suck. Just have to get through the sucky day.
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Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:39 am to TexasTiger08
The worst thing you can do is 'live in your head.' If you can't sleep, get up. The mind will torture you with endless re-tellings, what-ifs, and heap fuel on the misery that you are feeling. Turn the light on in the darkness. Do anything--something constructive--but don't live in your head.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:40 am to TexasTiger08
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TexasTiger08
Where in TX are you?
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that doesn’t include my unborn daughter
I would 100% get a DNA test.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:40 am to TexasTiger08
I already know I’m an a-hole but I will never understand why people divulge shite like this to random strangers on a message board.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:46 am to TexasTiger08
OP, you’ve gotten plenty of advice here over the last few months but I wanted to add this perspective.
You’ve only been married a short time and seem to be good guy. Planning vacations, have a decent job, etc. You were working on having kids. Sure you have your demons…but we all do.
So within this 3 year window after getting married, rather than try to support and help you deal with a couple of things and back you up as a wife should, she starts sewing the seeds with a coworker who is also married. Make no mistake, for something like that to work she has to be fully open to the idea….and maybe was the instigator….all while “trying” to have kids. This didn’t happen over night and wrecked two relationships. She didn’t speak to you or give you any warnings…just started working on plan b. That’s straight up cold and evil.
This woman sounds like trouble and you’re better off. Sounds hollow now but you definitely are. DO NOT give her the satisfaction of ruining your life. My sole motivation would be to make her regret the way she treated you and be the better man when it comes to being a dad (if it’s yours).
Anger can be a helluva motivator as long as you don’t lash out or do something stupid.
You’ve only been married a short time and seem to be good guy. Planning vacations, have a decent job, etc. You were working on having kids. Sure you have your demons…but we all do.
So within this 3 year window after getting married, rather than try to support and help you deal with a couple of things and back you up as a wife should, she starts sewing the seeds with a coworker who is also married. Make no mistake, for something like that to work she has to be fully open to the idea….and maybe was the instigator….all while “trying” to have kids. This didn’t happen over night and wrecked two relationships. She didn’t speak to you or give you any warnings…just started working on plan b. That’s straight up cold and evil.
This woman sounds like trouble and you’re better off. Sounds hollow now but you definitely are. DO NOT give her the satisfaction of ruining your life. My sole motivation would be to make her regret the way she treated you and be the better man when it comes to being a dad (if it’s yours).
Anger can be a helluva motivator as long as you don’t lash out or do something stupid.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:46 am to genuineLSUtiger
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A little off topic here but Roger you need to check out a website called Archaix.com. The guy postulates exactly what you posted and has reams of data to back it up. Yeah, this entire phony, ridiculous society that we are born into confuses people. This is not our home. Just a training ground/school for spiritual development.
I definitely will..
The world is designed to create consumers to support the wealthy and to give the poor something to do. Its all a charade of buying, selling... pretending.
Jungs ideas dealing with the shadow helped me a bit when I was reinventing myself. That unconscious layer where the real artificial programming takes place.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:47 am to supadave3
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supadave3
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Good advice here. Try to make today a good day. Get out the house and do something with one of those 8 people that love you. It’s about to 9 once that lil girl is born. Start building her a gift or go buy her a gift. Something tangible to prepare to give her.
Today will likely suck, tomorrow will possibly suck, but the future won’t always suck. Just have to get through the sucky day.
I agree. Today's just a bad day, but it does not mean it is a bad life. Nothing is permanent. Situations change.
The problem is that we all have the ability to stay focused on the negative, and drift to the negative with our idle thoughts. One must really be intentional to recognize and avoid this, and retrain our brain.
Time helps heal most things, but the problem is, most of us are impatient and want to rush the process, because we are scared, whether we want to acknowledge that or not.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:48 am to slinger1317
Everybody gets in a hard place sometimes.
At least he reached out to someone before he made a permanent choice about a temporary problem.
I was as strong as acid, but when I lost my wife I was devastated.
If he gets some help, from anywhere, he can get through this.
At least he reached out to someone before he made a permanent choice about a temporary problem.
I was as strong as acid, but when I lost my wife I was devastated.
If he gets some help, from anywhere, he can get through this.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:48 am to SquatchDawg
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Anger can be a helluva motivator as long as you don’t lash out or do something stupid.
A slow burning rage is awesome. Everyone should have that pilot lite lit, and kept in control. Allowing it to work for good is the hard part.
This post was edited on 11/27/23 at 7:49 am
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:49 am to TexasTiger08
OP read the advice in this thread and do as suggested. You’ve been given here the best advice you can pay for. It’s up to you to take it and run. I, as have others here, have been in your situation. I felt worthless, no matter how many times I was told I was a good daddy, husband, son, coworker, felt it was all fake. Continue with therapy, do as people here suggest, damn sure get out of your head. Actually open your eyes, no mind, focus on your surroundings and only that. Life is precious, very precious. I appreciate you, go find someone you appreciate and talk to them.
I struggled even with 3 kids at home, thought about ending it nightly when trashed drunk. The advice in this thread is unbelievable, I’d have given up my house to have this advice a decade ago…………..ok, trailer
I struggled even with 3 kids at home, thought about ending it nightly when trashed drunk. The advice in this thread is unbelievable, I’d have given up my house to have this advice a decade ago…………..ok, trailer
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:49 am to TexasTiger08
If your in the Lafayette area let me know. I find most of these things can be adjusted by a few cups of coffee. I help men all the time in marriage, relationships and struggles in general. Sometimes we get caught up in wrong thinking and it only minor adjustments to get us out of the mud.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:53 am to Tenfold
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If your in the Lafayette area let me know. I find most of these things can be adjusted by a few cups of coffee. I help men all the time in marriage, relationships and struggles in general. Sometimes we get caught up in wrong thinking and it only minor adjustments to get us out of the mud.
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I help men all the time in marriage, relationships and struggles in general. Sometimes we get caught up in wrong thinking and it only minor adjustments to get us out of the mud.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:56 am to TexasTiger08
That's depressing. I went through this too. Travel and party. Take time just for you.
I would smash new guy with a bat to the head before I took my own life.
But it's best to just let a ho be a ho. You dodged a bullet.
Go get laid. Pay for it if you have to.
I would smash new guy with a bat to the head before I took my own life.
But it's best to just let a ho be a ho. You dodged a bullet.
Go get laid. Pay for it if you have to.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:57 am to TexasTiger08
Get professional help now. Check yourself in somewhere.
Life doesn’t suck that bad, only you can get yourself out of this rut.
Get some exercise!
Life doesn’t suck that bad, only you can get yourself out of this rut.
Get some exercise!
This post was edited on 11/27/23 at 7:58 am
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:58 am to OceanMan
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Life doesn’t suck that bad, only you can get yourself out of this rut.
True. Its all an illusion. Change perspectives and habits, change the future.
Its harder than it sounds though.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 7:59 am to SuperSaint
I don’t know how to do PM’s or ai sure would have keep the offer private.
I do believe helping others is the greatest purpose in Life.
I do believe helping others is the greatest purpose in Life.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 8:00 am to TexasTiger08
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I think I’ve counted maybe 8 people that actually give a shite about me
That’s actually a lot to be thankful for. So many people don’t have that much going for them.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 8:02 am to Tenfold
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I do believe helping others is the greatest purpose in Life
Posted on 11/27/23 at 8:03 am to Tenfold
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I do believe helping others is the greatest purpose in Life.
Agree, as long as you dont let it drag you into the abyss too.
Posted on 11/27/23 at 8:05 am to TexasTiger08
You just need purpose man. As it turns out, your unborn daughter is going to give you all the purpose you'll ever need. Hang in there. Life is about to get so much better for you.
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