re: What is “Love”?

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Romantic love, at least, is simply chemicals in your brain. The same chemicals that are released when certain drugs cause a feeling of euphoria, causing a feeling of attachment or addiction. Unfortunately, the release of those chemicals diminishes over time.

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That’s not actually love, it’s more akin to infatuation. One reason so many marriages don’t last nowadays is people mistake infatuation for love. Infatuation is, at least partially, an involuntary reflex. Thus, many people today take the saying “falling in love” literally. Thus, as infatuation wanes over time, they think they’ve “fallen out of love”. No, they actually never loved the person to begin with. They were merely infatuated with them. Infatuation should be viewed as kindling to ignite a fire. But just as you can’t maintain a fire over the long term with just kindling, neither can a relationship be sustained long term on in just infatuation. While infatuation can start a relationship, only love can sustain it.

What people have to understand about love is that there is nothing involuntary about it. It’s not something that happens to you as if by accident and out of your control. Love is a conscious choice. And it’s an action, not just a feeling. If you want your relationship to last, you have to make the conscious decision to love your partner. If more people understood this fact, the divorce rate would plummet.

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Baby don’t hurt me

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Goddamnit

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True love is the ability to sacrifice and adapt..

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My Uncle knew. His preacher stopped him coming out of church and asked him would he do anything different with my aunt (RIP) if he had it to do over again. He thought for a minute and said, "Yes, I would have married her 3 years sooner when I had the chance."