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re: Living with your significant other before marriage - good or bad idea?
Posted on 9/7/25 at 9:21 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Posted on 9/7/25 at 9:21 pm to Artificial Ignorance
Yes, you should live with your SO before putting a ring on it.
Habits that you normally wouldn’t see outside of living together can become apparent. There are things that she can do that will drive you absolutely bonkers.
It’s a great opportunity period to adjust to your SO and her habits, and see if either can adapt.
Personally, I just went through with a breakup after dating her for 4 years. The relationship went downhill once we moved in together. She had a lot of control freak habits that became increasingly apparent the more time we spent together in the same living space. I gave her opportunities to improve those habits, but she never really changed. Glad I saw things for what they were and got out before putting a ring on it because that would not have been a happy marriage.
Habits that you normally wouldn’t see outside of living together can become apparent. There are things that she can do that will drive you absolutely bonkers.
It’s a great opportunity period to adjust to your SO and her habits, and see if either can adapt.
Personally, I just went through with a breakup after dating her for 4 years. The relationship went downhill once we moved in together. She had a lot of control freak habits that became increasingly apparent the more time we spent together in the same living space. I gave her opportunities to improve those habits, but she never really changed. Glad I saw things for what they were and got out before putting a ring on it because that would not have been a happy marriage.
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Posted on 9/7/25 at 10:09 pm to chryso
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Why weren't you living with your parents?
Because he’s not fricking or trying to have an intimate relationship with his parents you knucklehead.
I appreciate he was being independent leading up to meeting someone and making a fiscally responsible decision… like adults should do
Posted on 9/8/25 at 5:46 am to Artificial Ignorance
To truly know someone you need to see them under stress. It’s hard to keep up an act under stress and everyone puts on an act when trying to impress.
Id think traveling with someone is better than living with someone because there is always going to be some stresses while traveling. And, it’s a lot easier to go your separate ways after a week of traveling than to have to move.
I always say ‘you only start to know someone after 6 months’. But I guess you can speed that up.
Id think traveling with someone is better than living with someone because there is always going to be some stresses while traveling. And, it’s a lot easier to go your separate ways after a week of traveling than to have to move.
I always say ‘you only start to know someone after 6 months’. But I guess you can speed that up.
Posted on 9/8/25 at 5:47 am to Artificial Ignorance
All 23 of my wives, I've lived with before marrying
Posted on 9/8/25 at 6:02 am to RummelTiger
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If you think things were “better” in 1950, then you’re living in a nostalgic fog.
The best time to ever be alive is right now.
But I thought Boomers made it the worst time to be alive?
So which is it?
Posted on 9/8/25 at 6:56 am to Artificial Ignorance
It’s a terrible idea. Marriage is about commitment and should neither be rushed into nor “tried out”.
Both of those approaches tend to end badly. Today’s “HURRY” mentality is incompatible with a good marriage because a marriage requires patience.
Patience is not a character trait we see much anymore, and that’s a terrible thing not just relative to marriage.
Both of those approaches tend to end badly. Today’s “HURRY” mentality is incompatible with a good marriage because a marriage requires patience.
Patience is not a character trait we see much anymore, and that’s a terrible thing not just relative to marriage.
Posted on 9/8/25 at 7:31 am to Artificial Ignorance
Bad idea. If things go south it makes it 10X harder to break things off than if you are living separately.
Posted on 9/8/25 at 8:47 am to Mizz-SEC
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But I thought Boomers made it the worst time to be alive?
So which is it?
That implies that I said that about the boomers, which I have not, so it's not on me to explain.
My thoughts are my own.
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