re: Christmas Sex...anyone else getting shut down for Christmas?

“Scheduled time” is not a bad thing and should not be viewed as such. What happens or doesn’t happen during that time period is for the two people to decide. “Scheduled sex” could potentially be viewed as negative by one person if one person is of that mind frame. The leading up to it may make it seem like a transaction, but the actual act should be fulfilling and enjoyable for both, which usually is the case, even if it is “bad” sex.

But either way, I’m not sure why any person who is in a committed and long-term relationship would be upset with spending “scheduled” anything with their partner.

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I find it a little strange but not scheduled date nights or whatever. If you aren't having sex somewhat regularly with your spouse I think you should talk to them about it and try to figure out why.

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Sex, or the lack there of, is usually a symptom of a bigger rooted issue. If you don’t fix or avoid the bigger issue, other areas of your relationship, such as sex, will suffer.

Anger, resentment, disrespect, lack of trust, fear, etc. are likely attached to deeper rooter issues usually caused knowingly or unknowingly by one spouse through repeated poor decision making or selfishness.

Many women find a connection with their male partner through an emotional connection which leads to a physical connection. Men, on the other hand, are connected more physically, which then leads them to an emotional connection.

TLDR, if you don’t care for your spouse and fix issues within yourself that are destructive to your relationship, in time, chances are someone else will, deliberately or unintentionally.

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I agree. If you don't have much of a physical relationship with your spouse than you have bigger issues than just sex.

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Dead bed or roommates are common terms when describing a lack of physical contact between a married couple.

Not so fun facts. It seems that 20% of married couples between the ages of 18 and 59 have sex with each other ten times or less per year. Another 15% have sex with each other about twice a month or less. The “ten time or less” couples are often referred to as no-sex marriages (or sexless marriages) and the “about twice a month” group as low-sex marriages.

It should come as no surprise that marital satisfaction and sexual satisfaction go hand in hand.