re: WYHI: I’m (she/her) about to turn 21 and haven’t had my first kiss. I blame the pandemic.

Though it wasn’t the focus of her piece, oddly enough, she did actually identify what is likely the root cause of this failure...

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we were coddled and comforted

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Some things won’t happen until you get out there and make them happen. Simple as that. This isn’t the fault of a busy work schedule or romanticized movies or even the big bad pandemic. I read this and I hear the story of a young woman who has been too afraid to put herself out into the world. Until she takes agency for that decision and resolves to change it, she can just expect more of the same.

Not trying to be mean and not trying to put this young woman down. Just the simple truth in my opinion. And if she keeps getting coddled and comforted instead of being told that truth, nothing is going to change for her.