re: How long have you been married?

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People used to say things like, "It is healthy to fight!" and I always felt like that was just a justification for their own disrespectful relationship. We were both raised by parents who are still happily married and have never called each other a name or been disrespectful to each other.

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Agree x a billion

If you grow up in a house where your parents bicker or worse you think its normal or even justify it as healthy somehow.

If you grew up in a house where respect is maintained (even in crisis) you have a completely different experience in relationships.

I think its VERY hard for a mixed emotional marriage like this to survive.