re: ladies or successful men of the ot, how accurate is this advice

Men and women are all different. I don't just mean the two genders, I mean fricking everyone. There's no hard and fast set of rules for anyone because different men have different personality traits and physical characteristics that make them attractive to some women while others find it a turnoff.

There are basic ground rules like not being a creeper, overbearing, abusive, yadda yadda that everyone would agree on. But otherwise, like was said above, these guys are just selling bullshite. Confidence in yourself, not arrogance, and a solid sense of humor are your best bets.