re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

48 yrs old and have been married for 20 years. I won’t lie...it can be tough. It’s not as much your relationship with your SO that changes but the responsibilities and curve balls of life that get you. We have two kids and right after our second my MIL went on a downhill slide with dementia that was brutal on her and her family. Now her dad is dealing with lung cancer. He’s managed to make both of these as difficult as he could on my wife and her sister. Neither of them have a good adult relationship with him and unfortunately my wife takes the brunt of it.

These compounded issues sucked the joy out of her life and it’s been tough. We’re muddling through it because we owe it to each other and the boys. I’ve had to put my selfishness aside and try to be the rock for her and the family. I can’t afford to have a bad day....which is tough because I have my own issues to deal with. Both of our parents were married for life though so the foundation is there.

Of all my HS and college friends most everyone has been divorced. They had a lot to do with it...but there are also a lot of daddy’s little girls out there that run for greener pastures when things get rough. A lot of affairs and split families.

That being said...I had one friend who gave his wife a VD and ridden with guilt came clean in front of God and everybody that he had a sexual addiction and was scoring hookers (with an s) whenever he traveled for business. It was a huge dust up. Supposedly him and his wife reconciled....until she started banging sheriffs deputies a few years later. Can’t say that was her fault.

Another friend - who was always an emotional black hole - had a wife who was into showing horses. She went to a show and never came back. She ran off with a rodeo guy who makes hats and now lives out west somewhere.