re: moving in prior to marriage

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You DECIDE to love them. This is what makes marriages last.

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OK. That doesn't really rebut what I said. I'm saying you should ideally have more data before making that decision. Nobody buys a house without looking at the inside first. And spare me the "we're talking about people not houses."

I'm not saying moving in together prior to marriage is an absolute pre-requisite, nor that it should make you give up on a person because you found out they load the dishwasher wrong. But learning more about the person and testing the waters to see if you can compromise and make it work isn't a bad idea before you make a lifelong commitment. To completely ignore how you'll co-habitate and just presume that "love will overcome" is a bit rash. We're not living in a Lifetime movie.