re: I loved my life as a trophy wife until I realized what I was giving up....

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That woman is truly awful.

She used that man for his money, then divorced him when he was old, and took his money.

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I certainly wouldn’t want to be friends with her, but the “taking advantage” train seems to be traveling both ways in this story.

By her own admission, she was a 20 year old train wreck. The only conceivable reason he would have for marrying her is that he wanted someone he could control and influence. From the article:

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It was easy to give in to what my husband wanted. He was kind and reasonable; he told me that his first wife had made so many non-negotiable demands, and then she'd left him anyway. He'd been badly hurt, and he'd grown from it and learned how to assert his needs. Anyway, the things he wanted? They all seemed like good ideas. Didn't they?

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He essentially dictated her life to her in exchange for material comfort. Of course, she agreed to it, but she did so as a broke 20 yo in therapy with a crap job. I suspect that this was probably a plus in his book because she’d be easier to manipulate.

Again, not excusing her. She was an awful wife and seems like a fairly crappy person, but the ex here has issues of his own.