re: A list of things that are not the husband's fault according to women everywhere

I think that what might be going on here is that a lot of guys interpret a “complaint”, or even a simple statement of a fact as “blame”.

For example, someone here mentioned that his wife blamed him for not giving the kid preemptive allergy medicine. Often guys (myself included) respond with something defensive, like “How the heck am I supposed to know that?” Or “I’m not a fortune teller!”

What this does (in her head) is invalidates what she’s trying to say. You’re feeling defensive. She’s feeling like you’re not hearing her. Argument begins.

A better reposonse in that situation would be something like, “I never would have thought to do that.” That both validates what she’s trying to say and diffuses the situation.