re: Doubt this has happened to a TDer before.

1. Damn you skipped out on the check. That was what struck me the most. Guess I wasn't expecting that with how things were flowing.

2. You could look at donating some money to one of those college savings accounts for the kids.

3. This is a bit abrasive but here's my take on it: wife gave up that child. She has no right to interject now. Think of how that would be received by someone. Not a great position for her to be in, but she has to just let this go. That's just how it goes when you hand over a child for adoption. You trust you're doing it for the right reasons and that the child is better off because of it, and in return you're no longer the parent and no longer in the child's life. Just have to move on, again.