re: RAV4, CRV, or ??? Also New or Used?

Here's another vote for Subaru Outback or Forrester.
I think it's hard to argue against buying a Subaru.

My family has always been Toyota/Honda people, but we've been converted by the quality of Subaru.
I have a '13 Outback. Averages 26 MPG combined and have hit 31 MPG hwy.
It has great reliability (bought it new, have only had routine maintenance done so far at 92k miles) and holds its value very well. Decent warranty, not the best, but nobody I know has had to have any work done under warranty.
Better ground clearance than a Jeep, with the best AWD on the market. The thing grips the road really well in all conditions (but the stock tires suck, so gotta upgrade if you buy). It scoffs at loose gravel and really loves to drive on dirt.
Lots of interior space for storage thanks to the lengthy wagon style and folding rear seats. I also have an '86 Toyota truck and the Outback almost has more storage than the toyota's bed. Ample head and legroom for driver and passengers. I'm 6'4" and have more than enough leg room in any seat, even the back. Great visibility all around. The A,b,c pillars do not block vision much at all- and a lot less than other vehicles in its class.
My only complaint is the location of the hazard light switch. It's right in front of the gearshifter, so sometimes my giant fingers will hit it on accident as I put it in park. Oh, the shite stock tires too.
Best part about it? Perfect crash ratings.